Excuses, Excuses

August 18, 2009 at 9:25 am (Life) (, , , )

So as time until I’m back at Furman quickly diminishes, I have been mentally going through the list of friends I meant to keep in contact with this summer, but just never did.  I’ll ask how their summers have been and explain that I’ve been super busy…except that I haven’t been.  Why is it that there always seems to be so many people I’m going to stay in contact with over the summer or when someone moves or when someone does study abroad, except a lot of the time, I don’t?

In actuality, it’s not a question, but more a decision you have to make: Will you stay in contact, or won’t you?  Neither answer is right or wrong.  Everybody gets busy doing stuff the need to do…and often stuff they’d rather do…than call those people they’ve been meaning to call for a while.

Basically, I’m just saying it doesn’t come down to whether you actually have the ability to stay in contact with a person.  If you want to, you can.  Maybe it won’t be easy, but you’re the one who decides whether it’s worth it.  Is that phone call later worth not wasting forever on facebook now?  Of course it’s easy to say, “Sorry I haven’t called in a while.  I was busy studying for three tests and writing to papers and volunteering at a homeless shelter and organizing a campus-wide recycling campaign and saving the world.”  Not as easy to say, “Sorry I haven’t called in a while.  I was busy screwing around on facebook or shopping Victoria’s Secret and JCrew and Ann Taylor online for clothes I don’t need and can’t afford.”  Or maybe you were playing Halo.  Or maybe you were catching up on your eight favorite t.v. shows you just can’t miss.  Or maybe it’s summer vacation, and you actually have no excuse at all.

Regardless of what the crappy excuse is, it still comes down to whether you care enough to at least learn how to better manage your time.  My friend has a theory, with which I completely agree, that college students in general, myself included, are terrible with time management.  We spend days doing an assignment that could be completed in hours and then complain about not getting enough sleep the night before it’s do.  Still not a good excuse.

I’m not saying that anyone is a bad person if lack of time management keeps him or her from a long needed phone call.  I’m just saying people should stop expecting to stay in closer contact with people than they actually will.  If you want to stay in contact with a person…if that person is really that important to you…then stay in contact.  Make the time.  Otherwise, just accept the fact that we all have lives that keep us busy, and that’s just the way it is.


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